Comments on: My worst social trait.

By: Baba Yaga/names is tricky

Baba Yaga/names is tricky — Sat, 24 May 2014 15:50:07 +0000

In reply to names is tricky. Oh, god, I'm a fool, as if you can possibly accept without knowing who I am. You'd know me by Baba Yaga. No idea why that seemed difficult when I posted!

By: names is tricky

names is tricky — Thu, 22 May 2014 10:33:15 +0000

Ugh. This post will be a keeper when I can read it. It’s very close to the Big social thing I perpetually don’t do as I’d like.

Not related, I’d like to send you something, just because it keeps telling me you’ll like it. When it’s not telling me to stroke it. If you’d be o.k. with that, could you use the address on my comment (or, if you can’t, later on come up with something else you can do, and hope I see it) to let me know where to send it?

By: mateo

mateo — Wed, 21 May 2014 06:03:46 +0000

I’m just thrilled to discover that you’re posting more.

By: starlys

starlys — Sun, 11 May 2014 04:38:02 +0000

I’m skeptical of “making” and “having” friends; crave it but don’t really know what it means, and I most admire toddlers who just experience it but don’t hold on. If we could all be friends like that, there would be no guilt; there would not be that problem of either having too little (overdemanding others) or having too much (having to push off others). And we could be friends because of now, rather than having to always “catch up” and manage this fragile thing that we invent called a friendship.

By: Debra Tope

Debra Tope — Sat, 10 May 2014 03:57:15 +0000

Wow interesting – I think I’ve known people like this and reading your post helps me to not take it personally and understand that people care or can get isolated even if they have trouble staying in contact.

By: Vlad Drăculea

Vlad Drăculea — Fri, 09 May 2014 17:22:00 +0000

I’m Autistic and verbal, and I don’t remember if we’ve ever interacted much, if at all. But everything you said in this post is true of me — even the part about forgetting to eat because the cupboards and fridge are closed. It affects my family as well as close friendships, and the only reason I stay in contact with my ASAN-WA friends and knitting circle friends is because I go to their events. But I rarely ever see any of them outside of ASAN-WA meetings, socials, or crafting nights, or my two knitting circle meet-ups (one from my synagogue and one from a local fabric and craft store). Like you, it takes some mysterious lineup of everything going right for me to be able to initiate communications.

By: Nicola Mansfield

Nicola Mansfield — Fri, 09 May 2014 10:26:13 +0000

Man, this is soooo me! Glad to know I’m not alone. Even the cupboard thing, but for me it’s the fridge.

By: waggermama

waggermama — Thu, 08 May 2014 19:13:04 +0000

Reblogged this on Waggermama and commented: I wanted to relit thus as it's something I struggle with as well

By: Mel Baggs

Mel Baggs — Thu, 08 May 2014 18:35:31 +0000

In reply to CC. I don't see AS/ASD as a different diagnosis, it's all the same spectrum. And I imagine there's people off the spectrum entirely who have these problems too.

By: n.

n. — Thu, 08 May 2014 17:45:39 +0000

In reply to n..

also the thing you said about introverts not thinking about people naturally? so interesting. have to figure out how that applies to me, or doesn’t.

i do forget the existence of people that matter to me and i just assumed it was because i was a bad person and didn’t care about them the way i like to think i do. but i know you’re not like that, so maybe mine too is the other thing that you’re describing.

one time i even forgot i was married, for i donno, maybe a few seconds or a part of a second… then i remembered again and i was so relieved. i think if i didn’t live with anybody and wasn’t just about to see them in a few hours, i might possibly forget for longer time?