Comments on: To anyone who provides intimate care and believes you don’t have fingernails.

By: brokentruth

brokentruth — Fri, 25 Jan 2013 15:30:31 +0000

” that weird effect where once people believe something strongly enough, anything contradicting that belief flies out their ears or something” : This is called delusion. From what I’ve read about a lot of your supposed “care givers” I’d have to say that a lot of them are deluded. I’m very sorry that you have to experience these frustrating and degrading scenarios.

By: Lexilei

Lexilei — Sat, 17 Nov 2012 19:32:08 +0000

Health care professionals ought to know better! That was the 1st thing we were taught in massage therapy school!

By: “I’m the only one who can take care of you properly.” « Ballastexistenz

Mon, 27 Aug 2012 17:09:16 +0000

[…] Like she scrubs too hard, which causes pain and, for people with fragile skin, injury. She isn't able to control where she puts her hands. By which I mean she seriously thinks she's staying within certain bounds and she's not. Which means she gets lotion on my hands instead of just my wrists, which makes my eyes burn when I rub them later on. When she washes my vulva she goes all the way back to my anus despite attempts to stop her, which can cause infections. She can't aim properly when putting anti-fungal cream on, so my skin still burns when she's done. And no matter how many times I tell her to do otherwise, she tries to pull a towel out from under me before I have my pants on. Which can result in Desitin getting all over the bed sheets. She’s also one of the ones who inadvertently claws my vulva and thinks she doesn’t have fingernails. […]

By: ChasingPatterns

ChasingPatterns — Wed, 15 Aug 2012 17:51:22 +0000

I have heard that “I don’t have fingernails” comment often from my caregivers! Then tell me, why is your fingertip hurting me? I don’t know how they cannot imagine that pressure at a certain angle does, indeed, make for scratching, even with short nails.

By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Thu, 12 Jul 2012 00:19:24 +0000

Oh my gosh, that’s awful. Ow.

I’ve used “I don’t have any fingernails” to describe myself, because they are extremely short, so short that I can’t use them to do things like peel off stickers or open lids, but I can’t imagine having any other response to someone telling me I am hurting them with my fingernails but stopping doing whatever I was doing.

(And @The Untoward Lady – I can also attest to being able to feel people’s fingernails through gloves when they’re rummaging around “down there.”)

By: Amanda

Amanda — Wed, 11 Jul 2012 21:24:04 +0000

In reply to The Untoward Lady. They are, but you can easily feel fingernails through gloves.

By: The Untoward Lady

The Untoward Lady — Wed, 11 Jul 2012 17:04:18 +0000

Are your caretakers not wearing gloves when they handle your genitals?!

By: Kaminiwa

Kaminiwa — Wed, 11 Jul 2012 05:46:25 +0000

Definitely agreed with you on that one. I can be gentle with long nails, and rough with next-to-no nail, and it always baffles me why people would think LENGTH is the important aspect.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 18:30:41 +0000

I can’t really control what kind of voice tone my communication device uses. And this conversation took place after I basically said the same thing nonverbally. (They had no idea what they were doing, therefore no idea how to stop doing it.)

By: Mom

Mom — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 17:44:59 +0000

Ouch. Seriously…Ouch. Perhaps what would work with this situation is a two word reminder that we use with our dogs (who come equipped with sharp teeth) when they accidentally nip us when taking food from our hands. This is delivered in a firm voice, “Gentle Please!” No conversation. Just a firm reminder.