Comments on: Empathizing https://ballastexistenz.wordpress.com/2010/10/07/empathizing/ Mon, 01 Nov 2010 22:53:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Some things I learned on Autistics Speaking Day | Kitaiska Sandwich https://ballastexistenz.wordpress.com/2010/10/07/empathizing/#comment-22830 Mon, 01 Nov 2010 22:53:10 +0000 http://ballastexistenz.autistics.org/?p=643#comment-22830 […] I know, I know. I cut myself off from possible support networks, and I dismiss people who don’t deserve to be dismissed. I don’t like this part of myself, but I recognize that it’s not going away any time soon. Growing up as an atheist Jew singing Christmas Carols in the school choir dominated by Mormons, and working as a union organizer and political activist through the two Bush administrations, I’ve spent my whole life fighting for the losing team. If the narrator appears to be part of the dominant “oppressor” culture, I have a hard time reading through to the end. I recently read a great post on this topic at Ballastexistenz. […]

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By: dtx https://ballastexistenz.wordpress.com/2010/10/07/empathizing/#comment-22829 Sat, 30 Oct 2010 15:17:58 +0000 http://ballastexistenz.autistics.org/?p=643#comment-22829 I’m hfa and I see people’s ‘crazyness’, the amount they’re failing to connect with the world, instead being concerned with their fears. I think you’re talking about the same thing. It never occurred to me that this may be the inverse of what people (presumably crazy people by my definition) considered ‘being all there’, perhaps because they talk more openly in front of you.

Sane people are the only ones who can stand me, coincidentally. Crazy ones I can feel their lies burning near me. They get very hostile because they believe those lies are part of themselves, not just a protective outer coating.

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By: Ivan https://ballastexistenz.wordpress.com/2010/10/07/empathizing/#comment-22828 Sat, 30 Oct 2010 04:45:27 +0000 http://ballastexistenz.autistics.org/?p=643#comment-22828 At our first college we had a plant we named Metis(also the name of the goddess Athena’s mother in Greek mythology…..) it was a bromeliad or some kind of orchid…..we loved that plant but often forgot to water it. 7 and a half years later we still think of that poor plant….

Ah Metis………that fiery bloom…….
Sometimes passive empathy isn’t enough……action is required….in the case of the plant……..without water, all the love in the world isn’t enough.
I’m not implying that anyone is passive. Just stating a fact that relates to my little story here.

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By: Constantin Alexandrakis https://ballastexistenz.wordpress.com/2010/10/07/empathizing/#comment-22827 Fri, 29 Oct 2010 15:25:44 +0000 http://ballastexistenz.autistics.org/?p=643#comment-22827 great, thanks a lot

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By: Rose https://ballastexistenz.wordpress.com/2010/10/07/empathizing/#comment-22826 Thu, 28 Oct 2010 12:42:25 +0000 http://ballastexistenz.autistics.org/?p=643#comment-22826 “Not there”…for ME!!! “They aren’t paying attention TO ME!!” AND, “I suffer when I look at them, so therefore, they are suffering. Make them stop suffering in MY eyes.”

I’m being cynical, but I don’t think the truth is far from that.

“It’s only with the heart that one see’s rightly, what is essential, is invisible to the eye.”
(http://hardwonwisdom.blogspot.com/2006/06/chapter-21-little-prince.html)Sorry for the plug…

Maybe you see with your heart, and not a prejudiced mind.

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By: Cereus-Sphinx https://ballastexistenz.wordpress.com/2010/10/07/empathizing/#comment-22825 Wed, 27 Oct 2010 18:07:08 +0000 http://ballastexistenz.autistics.org/?p=643#comment-22825 @ the Untoward Lady:

Thanks. That article is really cool and useful.

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By: The Untoward Lady https://ballastexistenz.wordpress.com/2010/10/07/empathizing/#comment-22824 Mon, 25 Oct 2010 10:28:37 +0000 http://ballastexistenz.autistics.org/?p=643#comment-22824 … aaand several hours later I’m done with my post on living harmoniously with insects and arachnids!

Check it out: http://vibratingsquare.blogspot.com/2010/10/sparing-invertibrate-life-in-daily.html

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By: The Untoward Lady https://ballastexistenz.wordpress.com/2010/10/07/empathizing/#comment-22823 Mon, 25 Oct 2010 07:02:46 +0000 http://ballastexistenz.autistics.org/?p=643#comment-22823 @AnneC: Regarding your roach problem maybe I can help. Perhaps you could loosely identify the roach species down at least to the genus level. This might help: http://entnemdept.ifas.ufl.edu/choate/blattaria_new.pdf

Anyway, more often than not roach species that enjoy living in garages are not usually home invaders in that the inside of the home is rarely a good habitat for them. They just like the warm, damp environment so it’s important to identify whether or not they will invade your household.

For example, the species of cockroach which I have domesticated, Blaptica dubia is virtually incapable of climbing slick surfaces like cabinets and painted walls and thus tend to not invade households. (there’s a reason why I chose this species to domesticate)

A common roach that we often encounter in our garage are Blatta orientalis which can invade the house proper but normally don’t unless the inside is very filthy and food is stored particularly poorly. (my experience) They tend to just like the garage or occasionally they enjoy hanging out underneath sinks if you have allowed underneath the sink to become damp or humid.

Look out for Blattella germanica and Periplaneta americana unless you like having your cupboards infested, though.

Totally off topic but I suppose tangentially relevant when it comes to being humane to our six-legged neighbors. <3

Oh, another thing that’s important when you want to avoid unnecessarily killing little guys: when you find a spider inside your home and want to remove it without killing it, do not move it outdoors. Remember that the spider has probably moved indoors to protect itself from the climate outside and moving it outdoors will likely end its life anyway. Move it into your garage or a shed or at the very least some place that is very sheltered and warm.

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By: ballastexistenz https://ballastexistenz.wordpress.com/2010/10/07/empathizing/#comment-22822 Sat, 23 Oct 2010 13:14:44 +0000 http://ballastexistenz.autistics.org/?p=643#comment-22822 Rachel: My breathing is much better but now (even with probiotics added) I feel really sick from the antibiotics. :-P

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By: Rachel Cohen-Rottenberg https://ballastexistenz.wordpress.com/2010/10/07/empathizing/#comment-22821 Sat, 23 Oct 2010 09:59:41 +0000 http://ballastexistenz.autistics.org/?p=643#comment-22821 I hope you’ll be feeling better soon, Amanda.

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