Comments on: A useful link

By: Jackie

Jackie — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 12:19:47 +0000

Whenever I got bullied in high school, and told the moderater I had in Special Ed, she would say they didn’t mean it, I didn’t understand because I didn’t get social skills.

After enough times of this, I figured “Well I guess she wants me to become like my bullies.” as well as seeing since she wouldn’t defend me from them, I’d have to defend myself against them.

It is a huge fail, cause it’s telling that person their perspective of the situation is worthless, because it can be accounted for by their disability or diagnoses.

I don’t know how someone is supposed to learn about proper social interaction, in an environment where people are allowed to harass and bully them, with no regard to the situation. It makes me think of school shootings, maybe the reason those students resorted to that, is because the school told them time and time again they don’t understand, part of social interaction is being cruel to others.

By: Fenners^Kerry

Fenners^Kerry — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 01:45:37 +0000

Thank you for this link. I found that I could actually relate to it quite a bit, considering that we’ve had situations in which we’ve run into privileged ‘allies’ who got upset that we were angry about some sort of privilege-fail that they committed, or that we criticised their so-called ‘ally’ behaviour. I think a lot of people call themselves ‘allies’ because they pity marginalised groups. They don’t necessarily respect them; they just pity them, and that comes out in their reactions. When people stand up and assert their personhood and criticise their behaviour, that rejects their pity, and the ‘allies’ grow defensive.

By: Alex

Alex — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 01:09:45 +0000

A very useful link, thank you.

By: Littlewolf

Littlewolf — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 21:45:25 +0000

“…trapping us into a situation where we need to communicate in the same way those in power do before those in power will listen. (Which is false anyway…”

This reminds me of a quote by Audre Lorde (I’m pretty sure it’s Audre Lorde, anyway–hopefully someone will correct me if I’m wrong): “The master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house”.

Thank you for this post, and thanks for the link.

Littlewolf

By: Jared Spurbeck

Jared Spurbeck — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 19:37:07 +0000

I think that if somebody does that, it demonstrates that they do not see us as people but as something lesser. And that it’s no use trying to talk to them, because they look down on us.

Looking forward to those kitty blog posts. >.>b