Comments on: You’re like an object to me. And that’s a compliment.

By: Tess

Tess — Mon, 09 Apr 2007 09:25:15 +0000

Heh, a good friend and roommate of mine used to say that she didn’t like people, or was uncomfortable around people. The highest compliment she could pay someone was that they weren’t a person.

She didn’t even have autism–but I knew what she meant, and I know what you mean. And it’s cool to have a friend like that. :)

By: dkmnow

dkmnow — Fri, 06 Apr 2007 03:26:16 +0000

There have always been a handful of people in my life who have approached this sort of status in a few ways, but there were always other ways or circumstances in which their continued presence would soon become horribly burdensome to me. It took a very long time for me to understand enough about myself that I could stop blaming either them or myself for this variable incompatibility. There are still those few whose presence I can tolerate far more than most, but in recent years there has been one surprising change. There is now one person in whose presence I could easily spend (almost) all of my time, and with whom I feel (almost) none of the otherwise ubiquitous social tensions that invariably send me searching desperately for a rock to crawl under.

That person is my mother.

Most people, I’m sure, would consider this to be too unremarkable and/or commonplace to mention, but I think this acknowledgment would surprise her even more than it does me. Our relationship and shared past has hardly been idyllic. It is only by finally learning about “the spectrum,” and how it defines my relationship with society-at-large, that I have discovered a level of trust in her that is not “merely intellectual” (at the risk of courting an illusory distinction) but deeply emotional as well.

Frankly, it’s so unfamiliar that it seems strange to consider, even now.

By: Ivan

Ivan — Tue, 03 Apr 2007 10:42:24 +0000

Hmmmm…………I’ll have to think about this…….if anyone has made me feel that way that I can remember…………I know that someone has made my altie feel that way for sure………….

I would love to have my head scritched……….reading that made me crave it even more……

Thanks for giving me yet another interesting thing to think about.

Ivan

By: elmindreda

elmindreda — Mon, 02 Apr 2007 05:21:54 +0000

Cool. That’s one particular compliment I haven’t dared give anyone in person yet, regardless of how well thought out my current cache of explanations is.

By: Rosemary

Rosemary — Sun, 01 Apr 2007 17:56:33 +0000

It is great to feel so comfortable with someone and that you can just pick-up where you left off after years of not seeing each other in person. I wonder what it is about a certain person that makes her seem like an object to you. LOL. (I understand that it is a good thing.) A friendship like this is one of life’s treasures.

By: bullet

bullet — Sun, 01 Apr 2007 15:51:57 +0000

I think I know what you mean. My husband is the only person apart from my children who can stand or sit next to me without me feeling uncomfortable. I normally have a personal space radius of about three feet, but with him I feel very comfortable.