Comments on: Life’s infinite richness

By: Ole Ferme l'Oeil

Ole Ferme l'Oeil — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 17:30:15 +0000

Thank You Amanda, I’ll do it as soon as possible!
and give you the link.
:)

By: Lene

Lene — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 14:43:30 +0000

beautifully written and a fantastic we’re phrasing it. I think most people and especially able-bodied people suffer from a lack of imagination. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard the “if I ever lost the use my legs, I’d kill myself” and it always boggles my mind. Not just because so many people say it right to my face, but because of the rigidity with which they view their experience of life. As if it can only be experienced in a satisfactory way under certain circumstances.

By: ballastexistenz

ballastexistenz — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 18:47:31 +0000

Yes, it’s fine to translate this one and the other one you mentioned. You might also be interested in translating “Up in the Clouds and Down in the Valley” (the article linked from here) which would be fine too.

By: Ole Ferme l'Oeil

Ole Ferme l'Oeil — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 17:10:30 +0000

Oh, and I would love to translate this post too!
It probably says one of the most important thing that has to be said!
(here too I would put the translation on Asperansa and give a link to the original post.)

By: lucy

lucy — Tue, 17 Jul 2007 19:55:07 +0000

I just happened by, as one often does on the internet, when I stopped to read this whole page. I just wanted to thank you for these posts – for the insight in particular into your experience of the autistic condition and especially also the profound insight of the main post on ‘life’s infinite richness’, which holds great wisdon for all humans on earth. It is a truth often forgotten or disregarded. Even among those, like myself, functioning completely within the non-autistic sphere, judgmental evaluations are constantly being made about one’s own existence versus another’s, someone who supposedly has achieved a “better”, more “worthy” or more desirable life. This judgment is first external and then becomes internal and leads to unhappiness and discontent in society. Thank you again. I shall take that phrase ‘Life’s Infinite Richness’ to bed with me tonight and reconstruct my dreams.

By: Updated blog theme. - Ballastexistenz

Updated blog theme. - Ballastexistenz — Sat, 16 Jun 2007 14:56:11 +0000

[…] It actually fits with the theme of this blog in many ways, because I remember getting an email from someone who couldn’t imagine being stuck in one place for as long as I sometimes have without wanting to die or something, and I remember thinking that there’s actually stuff you miss by not being stuck in one place for that long, just as there’s stuff you miss when you are. I know every detail of that tree, of the lives of the birds in the birdcage across the courtyard, of the various plants, and so forth, to a level that most people who just walked by or glanced out the window sometimes would not. There’s a whole lot of life to be experienced whether you’re stuck in one place or moving around all over. That’s part of the basis for my post Life’s Infinite Richness. […]

By: Ivan

Ivan — Thu, 21 Dec 2006 15:30:53 +0000

what on earth was that woman thinking……………

some people…..sigh

that’s all I can really say about that one.

Ivan

By: Ballastexistenz » Blog Archive » “Just look at them and you’ll understand.”

Sat, 14 Oct 2006 08:37:05 +0000

[…] Can I ask something of all of you here? Did you like to see her like that? […] I am, however, going to do everything in my power to see that my daughter doesn’t end up like that. I would consider that a great tragedy. A crime. […] I will never apologize for not wanting my daughter to be like that woman. Autism of that profundity IS a tragedy…not an alternative lifestyle. It’s a DISORDER that can be avoided. […] when I see that woman (I’m sorry I don’t remember her name) lying there with the lonely blank stares typical of autism…and read of her horrible experiences…all I can think of is how could this have been avoided? I imagine everything she has missed out on earlier in her life…and will likely never experience later in life. She may be “fine” with her life and merely want acceptance and love…and everything else that folks seek in life. But there’s a richness to life she’ll never have because of her disabilities. […]

By: Ballastexistenz » Blog Archive » Views from above

Ballastexistenz » Blog Archive » Views from above — Fri, 13 Oct 2006 18:49:25 +0000

[…] The first part deals with ‘partial humanity’, and this is one important part of view-from-above. (I wrote the first stuff about some people being considered only partial, before seeing that quote, for reference.) This is true even of view-from-above writing that purports to show us as fully human; view-from-above writing is in many was the absolute opposite of life’s infinite richness. […]

By: J

Thu, 05 Oct 2006 15:48:40 +0000

As long as we’re off topic, I think N is closer to correct. I’m one of the NT readers, and most of the discussion of social trivia that I and the people I know engage in is a way of sounding the other person out. It can be a good way to learn about them without putting your inner life up for scrutiny.

Conversations about things like appearance, popular television shows, hobbies, and where they grew up, can provide a good working estimate of a person’s attitude towards life, without subjecting them to the potentially frigtening experience of asking outright. For instance, “I got it on sale, and it’s great on the muddy hiking trails!” usually comes from someone with a different worldview than “I promised myself no more than five pairs of shoes this month, but it’s too cute!”

It’s also common to begin the conversation about trivial things, and work to increasingly intimate topics over time. It tends to work fairly well provided people are starting from a similar enough background to correctly interpret the other person’s signals. In dealing with someone from another culture, or someone who has a physical or neurological basis for using different body language, this technique really steers people wrong. So it’s not an ideal approach, but there are good reasons why most NTs act like that.

As for television, it can be used as a substitute for thought, or it can be a way of preventing overload. I think some autistics stim for similar reasons? Having predictable and non-demanding distraction (which is how telvision is for some people) can help block out the overly demanding outside input, and allow for relaxation. Of course the problem is that the two can overlap, and watching tv as a way to keep your brain from getting overly wrapped up in work can segue into watching tv to not think about what’s bothering you.