Comments on: More careful, not less.

By: The Integral

The Integral — Thu, 03 Jan 2008 04:52:39 +0000

Aha. so THAT’S where the bad-writing comment was……I KNEW one of us had left a slightly self-critical comment somewhere……..found it!

The “Last 5 Comments” should be 10….or is that just the default setting in WordPress? We’ve been thinking about having a blog in WP for a little while now……….wow it’s midnight already. Didn’t realize time was going so fast……

By: Ivan

Ivan — Sat, 25 Aug 2007 17:38:11 +0000

I remember talking about this kind of thing in a group at my college program on thursday…………but unfortunately can remember very little about it……..

Y’ know, Amanda, this will probably sound INCREDIBLY cheesy………and perhaps, if it were coming from another, a little patronising…….(consider the source though……..words aren’t working to my advantage)

having stuff like this articulated for us………really does make a difference in our life………I think I’ll be able to fix us food now. I’m totally serious………just wanted you to know that………probably not postworthy…….(please don’t, this is bad writing….)

Ivan and Athena

By: Rachel Hibberd

Rachel Hibberd — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 22:02:37 +0000

This post makes a lot of sense to me, and it’s something I hadn’t thought about. Thanks for posting it. I’ll try to store it away for when I start working with people again.

By: Understanding of rights vs. having rights. - Ballastexistenz

Understanding of rights vs. having rights. - Ballastexistenz — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 06:47:48 +0000

[…] general even if you don’t know where it’s coming from). I covered a lot of this in my more careful, not less […]

By: Autism Vox » Violence: GED, SIBIS, and other weapons

Autism Vox » Violence: GED, SIBIS, and other weapons — Tue, 23 May 2006 15:59:43 +0000

[…] And we have the murder of three-year-old Katherine McCarron by her mother as terrible proof positive–negative-about the harming in the name of “teaching”; the abuse; the murder of autistics. We have public outpourings of pity for family members who (even if they contemplate murder and suicide) are glorified for their “suffering” in raising an autistic child, while the greatest suffering–and misunderstanding at the hands of everyone–is in the child’s. […]

By: Justthisguy

Justthisguy — Tue, 23 May 2006 00:00:32 +0000

Miss B., all those things those people did to you were *crimes*, violent crimes. (Yeah, I reckon you already know that.)

Really, in most States just touching someone gently without his permission is a criminal offense. (“simple battery” in Georgia, I think.)

Gentlemen used to fight duels to the death over the slightest blow.

I think that handling someone else’s body without express permission or good necessary reason is pretty Goddamned rude at the least, and most prolly a serious crime in most jurisdictions. (IANAL)

Crimes done in secret are often not punished. I think that’s why criminals prefer to operate in secrecy

By: Robert P

Robert P — Fri, 12 May 2006 15:17:30 +0000

See, and I thought I was against the death penalty. Alright, I’m still against the death penalty in most cases, but this is pushing the envelope for me.

I have to say that among the general population it is these stories that tug at the heartstrings, cause uprisings, and lead to change. If you can keep people focused. In Katrina, it was the elderly left to die in the hallways of their institutions that Dick and Jane were discussing the next day, and the babies at the Superdome. Not the thousands of just “poor” people that were left to their own devices.

If you can raise awareness on these issues, perhaps you can lead to change. It’s happened before. Remember, it was the fire that trapped children and resulted in their death that changed worker safety forever. It was the bombing of children that turned the tide in the fight for Civil Rights.

I won’t argue that NOBODY sits around thinking about these things unless they are brought up in the media. So, bring them up in the media. Lord knows the local news loves nothing more than a good abuse story to scare all the couch potatoes.

On another note, how do we get more people into these professions? We have a hard time filling nursing slots of any kind and most Americans do a shoddy job taking care of themselves, much less anyone else.

By: Autism Vox » Physical Abuse: a tough topic I have to worry about

Autism Vox » Physical Abuse: a tough topic I have to worry about — Fri, 12 May 2006 14:05:06 +0000

[…] Ballastexistenz’s latest post, More careful, not less, is a tough read for a parent but absolutely necessary. An excerpt: To me, “more severely disabled” (however that gets defined) means less able to fight back, less able to talk back, less able to do anything about what is happening. (Where “less able” can mean “less enabled”.) And to me, that means being more careful about violating the rights of people regarded as severely disabled. Not less careful. Not disregarding rights entirely as if these are “special cases” who need to be treated with less respect than everyone else. […]

By: Alison Cummins

Alison Cummins — Fri, 12 May 2006 12:56:35 +0000

This reminds me of a conversation I had with one of my previous employers, a woman who did the hiring for a small co-op of handicapped people who needed attendant care. Nancy was very frustrated with one of the other co-op members who had just refused to accept services from a recent hire because she thought he was sexist. He had to be let go, and Nancy had to go back through the whole process of interviewing and finding someone else. Nancy was fuming. “Nobody’s perfect. Why can’t Barbara just deal? I do. Finding staff isn’t easy, it’s not like ordering the model you want out of a catalogue. Already if they are strong enough to carry you, organised enough to show up, and speak your language well enough to communicate you’re getting a lot. Now you want someone who meets your social standards too? Give me a break!” So I found myself in the position of explaining Barbara’s position as well as I could imagine it. “Nancy, you don’t require intimate services daily. You can deal with an attendant who’s a bit of a jerk because you only need help dressing, cooking and cleaning. But Barbara really does deal with a lot from her attendants already. For instance, she will ask her attendant to insert a tampon for her. I have a lot of admiration for a woman who is that assertive about her body. But this means she needs to be able to have complete trust in her attendants.” I didn’t hear any more mutterings from Nancy.

So yeah, more, not less.

By: Kristina Chew

Kristina Chew — Fri, 12 May 2006 12:30:42 +0000

Amen.

I’m hoping (hoping, for all it is worth) that this post gets read as much as it needs to be.